James 4:1-3, NIV: What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

It is the picture of a childish tantrum—children of God fighting over matters within the church. Do I think the carpet should be red, the hymnbooks blue, or the emergency fund larger? Why? Is it God’s glory that I seek? Is the service too slow, the song selection too modern, or the preaching too dry? Who am I to judge? Perhaps I should concern myself with weightier, more personal questions. Am I willing to put aside my preferences regarding church décor in favor of encouraging peace, love and unity? Am I able to take responsibility for worshipping God during the service, regardless of the songs or sermon? The church does not exist to serve me, but I exist to serve within the church. The church does not exist to honor me, but to honor God. As long as the church does not dishonor God, who am I to argue that my wishes be heeded? So much of what is argued about is petty and pointless. And so often because we simply lose sight of Who is Lord, and Whose church it is.